It is no surprise

I think of them all the time, there is not a day that passes that they don’t enter into my mind. She more than him, popping in, making my heart stop for a moment, it building up the walls to the emotions that threaten it. In addition to the everyday, there are those touchstone days that happen throughout the year that add another layer, Christmas is one of those.

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Christmas – After Loss and After Joy – It’s Complicated

It’s complicated, that has been a main theme of this blog. Commercially, holidays, especially Christmas, are a time of celebration and joy, just listen to any Christmas song.  For those who have had loss in their lives, recent or not, it is a time where you are made more aware of that empty space at the table. Continue reading

Anxiety. And the lack there of this week.

Bend. I have written about it before. I remember the first time Jesse took me out here, it was Thanksgiving. My “in-laws” lived in an area called the Old Mill District, which is near a shopping area, and downtown.  Even though I barely knew them, the family was welcoming, warm, and so chill. A sense of relaxation came over my body that I was unfamiliar with.  That has continued every trip since, and there have been quite a few over the past nine years. Continue reading

Christmas – After the Loss of a Child

Seven years, five months, fifteen days. That is how old she would be today.  I usually don’t know that off the top of my head, unless it’s on the 21st (her birthday was June 21, 2009). However, it is something I can come up with rather quickly. Any parent who lost their child can.  It’s a thing.  Continue reading